3 Books to read This Memorial Day Weekend

As we celebrate Memorial Day, we want to remember those who fought and lost their lives to keep our country safe. Some of us are thankful for the three day weekend and some of us will have to keep working. Maybe you will be able to sneak away and read a few chapters of a good book. Here are just a few that you might find interesting.



Band of Sisters: American Women at War in Iraq


And for the recent graduate I recommend

The Best Advice I Ever Got: Lessons from Extraordinary Lives


Whatever you do this weekend, take some time to enjoy your family and relax. See the beauty in nature and enjoy. Life is too short to be stuck inside all day. Let your skin feel the rain or get kissed by the sun. If it is cloudy and windy, take a walk or have a picnic. Drink in the moments. Throw a blanket in the back yard and read until dusk. Have a great weekend.

Are non-honors graduates are smart? You betcha.

As graduates all over the country walk across the stage to receive their diplomas this month, many are adorned with ropes, medals and accolades.

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Their names are read along with one of the three levels of the latin term cum laude which meanswith praise”. Cum Laude, pronounced (Koo m lou-dey) is the lowest of the three special honors for grades above excellence. Magna cum laude is next and the highest in academic achievement is Summa cum laude.

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But what about the student who spent hours listening to a hurting friend who has given up on life, or the art major who has painted a masterpiece that has taken countless hours to complete. Or the student who worked a 30-40 hour work week to support himself all through school. Where are their adornments?

I really wish we could read bios for each graduate and hear everyone’s story of triumph, struggles and achievements. Some of us are not academic scholars, some of us are creatives. Some write, sing, play an instrument and some are good best friends. They spend time lending a listening ear to the college student who is homesick or runs to the store to help a sick college student when he/she is sick. Those are smarts of a different kind. Call it streets smarts, high EQ or just normal, these students deserve to be recognized.

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I applaud those of you who have kept their grades up enough to graduate all while sharing their gifts with others and having successes outside of academic classes.

Hard work pays off

Sometimes when we are faced with a huge project or goal, getting there seems impossible. Many times the whole thing can seem daunting and impossible. 

But if you throw some hard work on it the task seems easier. If your throw a little more work on it then it seems manageable. Before you know it you are there! 

And so it is when you enroll in college. All of those classes and assignments can seem overwhelming in the beginning but if you take it one day or maybe one year at a time, you’ll be graduating before you know it. 

Congrats to all of those hard working graduates who never gave up. Who are walking across that stage to receive an award given to those who have achieved a goal/a degree. You didn’t give up!

Hard work pays off. 

Ask for All the Gusto

How many of us choose not to speak up, lean in and ask for what we want out of life?


will be honest and say that many times I get intimidated and tend swim with the crowd. I was taught not to rock the boat at a very early age. Now I see that staying silent about important things didn’t help me grow as a person. The times that I did speak up and voice my convictions became huge turning points in my life and strengthened my faith. I am reminded of Moses who said “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.” Exodus 4:10. Yet God gave him strength and he was used in a mighty way.

Be encouraged today and this weekend.

Go for the gusto in all you do.

My Week in Pictures

This has been my week in pictures.

Here is my son’s photo of our view from the top of our hill. It is beautiful and it reminds me of my creator because He does great work with sunrises and people like me.

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My work days look a lot like this picture. I am either sitting at a cafe coaching or on the phone/Skype call coaching.


Then I get out sometimes to meet other moms from my son’s school and eat something like this. I must describe this to you. It is a chicken breast pounded thin, seasoned and pan-fried. With peanut butter, Siracha and Thai basil slaw, with grilled brussels sprouts on the side. YUM! Oh momma was it good. Disregard the leftover Tater-Tot Nachos that we (ok, I ate about half of it myself) devoured. Glad I had water to drink, ’cause every calorie counted on this day.


I also witness a lot of love this week. Got a few hugs from this boy and some licks from the canine in this photo. All in all it was a good week.


If you happen to be reading this blog, please send me a picture that says something about your week. You can email it, text it, post on my Facebook, tweet it with this hashtag. #allthingsgoodandwise   Can’t wait to see your life in pictures.

3 reasons why I love Pinterest

I have a confession to make. I tend to hoard magazines. Anyone who has been to my home can see that in the corner of my living room is a huge stack of magazines and catalogs. I only keep Anthropologie and James Avery catalogs when they arrive in the mail. This can cause a problems when you cannot let go of some magazines because you “think” you will use them one day. And so they pile up. I still have a few boxes of them in my garage. But sssshhhh, please don’t tell my husband. I will visit them and run my hand over the pretty pages and place them back in the boxes. Yes, I know, I have a problem. My most pride possessions are the Mary Englebriet ones from years ago. I don’t think she publishes them anymore. I also love my old copies of Domino.


So, why do I love Pinterest so much?

1. I can pin until my heart’s content and not clutter my home. No more magazines (except the ones I have to purge) and no more pages to tear out and keep. Yes, I have a stack of pages torn out of magazines that I refuse to throw away. y’all, I have a problem. Jesus take the wheel.

2. Pinterest helps me dress better. Before I decide what to wear I go to Pinterest and find my outfit ensemble. If I know that I will be wearing my khaki pants today, then I search for khaki pants outfits and see if I have a blouse/shirt to match one of theirs, and viola! I have an outfit to wear to work.

3. If I am hungry I let Pinterest plan my meal. Last week we had some friends over for a cookout and I wanted to make a pasta to go with our grilled chicken. So, of course I checked out Pinterest. And I made the best pasta salad this side of the Mississippi River.

I also use it to help balance me as a decorator. I look for paint colors and how to place mirrors and art work in my home and office.

I also have a huge pin on Pinterest that is sweeping the nation! It has over 1,500 pins and growing. Check it out here and pin it to your own board.

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BTW, I will keep my Mary Englebriet  and Domino magazines FOREVER and EVER AMEN. Sorry Honey.

Riding Bikes

Do you like to ride a bike?

How many times did you fall while learning how to ride a bike? I had many skinned knees from falling off of my bike. Once because the bike I was trying to ride was not my size, who knew you could adjust that banana seat?


Once I adjusted the seat, it was as if someone attached wings to my back. I soared and never looked back.

With life, sometimes you have your “adjust the seat”.

You should change things around to work and live where your gifts and passions are being used.

Do you need to adjust your seat so that you stop running into closed doors?

“Throughout human history, in any great endeavour requiring the common effort of many nations and men and women everywhere, we have learned – it is only through seriousness of purpose and persistence that we ultimately carry the day. We might liken it to riding a bicycle. You stay upright and move forward so long as you keep up the momentum.” Ban k.