Feelings Masquerading as Truth

I See Beauty

I see beauty all around. Sometimes it is right there in front of me and I see it. Like this morning when I saw this sunrise and thought “I am here, alive and well. I am seeing this beautiful sight. All is well today. It may not be well tomorrow but all is well today and I will bask in it”

I see beauty when I can find a few stolen moments to have some wings and queso with my favorite 14 year old. My son loves wings and it is not beneath me to use food bribes to get him to hang with me.


When I get to listen to jazz on a record player.

Also beautiful



Pure sounds

 What I find at my local farmer’s market can also be categorized as beautiful. This is GINGER, real ginger. Not that kind you buy in the store in it’s ground up form, not even the kind that is sold in the produce section of your grocery store, no this is from the ground fresh ginger.

All things good and wise, farmers market, Ginger, record player

So here are a few things that I am loving at the moment.

Book of the week:

Blood, Bones and Butter


Snack of the week:

Skinny Pop Popcorn


Breakfast of the week:

Quaker Instant Oatmeal cups


Enjoy. Look for the beauty in your world and please share it with us.

It’s ok to have a C+ Day

Every day I set out to have an A+ day, doesn’t everyone? I mean I have a TO DO list that I want to check off, clients that I want to serve well, meetings I want to kick out of the ball park and family commitments that I want to be meaningful. I don’t ask for much. However, some days having an A+ day just cannot happen.

How to push thru a less than great day

When you are faced with days that are less than an A+ day what do you do?

Everyone had those days for example yesterday was a tough day, as I woke up way too early (4am) and could not go back to sleep. The alarm went off and I needed to hit the ground running, I had appointments at opposite ends of the city and forgot my lunch so I had to settle for a snack at a fast food place. I tried to make a healthy choice but the selection was limited, this added to my already stressful day. Circumstances did me in and made it hard for me to achieve excellent results. So I had to settle for a C+ day.

I had to accept it and move forward.

I had to let myself off the A+ hook and hang my hat on C+.

I had to realize that a C+ day was just one day out of many.

Doing things half-baked was still doing something and not nothing.

I released myself from being on my  A game 24/7

And you know what happened? Nothing. I did what I had to do and learned from my mistakes that day just as I did every other day. I made a contribution to my world like I do on most days, and I survived my C+ day.

When you have a less than great day, how do you push through it?




Three Thank Yous

My daughter was in an accident today. Thankfully she is ok and no one was harmed. We are grateful that she was wearing a seatbelt and that she took care of the recall on her airbags this past summer. These, I believe, saved her life.

These are her words after the accident.

Wearing your seatbelt, airbag, accident


“Say three things you are thankful for before your feet touch the ground”

The Lord’s words were so clear this morning when I woke up. I knew today would be a day of thanksgiving.

After my car flipped, I remember being held so tightly by my seatbelt and wondering if I was alone on that road. Within 1 minute, I was surrounded by civilians who stopped to call 911, direct traffic, call my parents and my work, and just to hold my hand.

Today I am thankful for those people, and for the state trooper that cut me out of my seat belt and pulled me out of my car. For the many officers, EMTs, and firemen who stopped to make sure I was ok.

For my parents and Sean, my boyfriend, who comforted and are still comforting me.

I am thankful for my sore body and the bumps on my head.

I am thankful for a Father who protected me from so many “what would’ve beens” and made sure I knew I was not alone.

Today I began my day with thanking the Lord and I will end it just the same.


What are you thankful for today? 


Someday Has Just Arrived 

My life use to be filled with somedays. I would catch myself saying some day I will…. But oddly, that someday never arrived. After lots of disappointments and sorrows, I began to see things differently. I have learned to accept that life is never going to be JUST RIGHT. I need to just take all the gusto from life now and not worry about the future as much.

Someday I will go to Paris

My Someday


Don’t get me wrong, I still save money and plan for the future but I enjoy life NOW. Years ago I read an article from the FlyLady that changed the way I view my possessions and life. Use it now, don’t wait for that rainy day or SOMEDAY, do it today. Enjoy the things you have and forget the future.


One of my favorite quotes come from the Bible in the book of Matthew 6:34 “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”  So there you have it. Don’t worry about the future. We have enough fish to fry today.

Do you find yourself saying these things?


Someday I’ll write in that nice journal Someday

Someday I’ll use the good china

Someday I’ll use my new bible

Someday I’ll use the good towels and sheets

Someday I’ll throw a party when my house is clean

When I get enough money I’ll travel.

I’ll give to charity.

When I find the right church I’ll attend regularly

Someday I’ll go back to school

Someday I’ll read that book

Someday I’ll call my dad and tell him how much he means to me.

Someday I’ll visit my best friend in NYC

When I get a bigger house I’ll be more organized

When I get a large kitchen I’ll cook more.


I’ve taken the word  SOMEDAY out of my vocabulary (give or take a few slip-ups). I’ve learned to make things happen that I can make happen. Does that make sense? If I cannot take a European tour with stops in Greece, Italy, France and Spain then I will take a short trip to one of my favorite cities and appreciate the time spent away from work and responsibilities. I will mark in my journal because it’s beautiful and I deserve beautiful things.

I will do what I can to travel and see friends.

I will be cook gourmet meals in my less than fabulous kitchen

I will organize my house because it needs to be organized

I will give what I can to charity

I will throw a party and have fun


What will you do once you remove the word someday out our your vocabulary?


Should you TAKE THE DAY OFF?

We all need a day off here and there. I am in great need of a day away from everything. Problem is that I just don’t plan it like I should. Do you have that problem?  I need to talk you (myself) into doing it.

3 reasons to take the day off from work, all things good and wise, corine sandifer, life coach

Three Reasons to take the DAY OFF

  1. You deserve it
  2. You need it
  3. You will be better after it.

How to Plan it and What to do.

Set and guard the time: Just knowing when you will take the day off sounds glorious to me. when I see that my calendar is empty, I want to kick my heels up and jump on the couch like Tom Cruise! So when you decide that you will take the day off, mark it on your calendar. Put a huge smiley face on it or a huge X to mark it off and guard it. Guard it to yourself. Put it on the calendar and make it important.

Agenda shmenda! Some of us don’t want an agenda because it’s our day off! But some of us want to plan to do something that we have always wanted to do. It all depends on how you want to spend your day. My ideal is to have a plan. I will sleep in after the kids go to school, I will have a chocolate croissant for breakfast, and then I am going to visit that exhibit at the  museum that I’ve been dying to see. You need time away from routine but that doesn’t mean you can’t plan for fun.

Find your happy place and stay there all day. If you are most happy getting lost in a bookstore or IKEA, then go there. Or if you enjoy being in your sweat pants, then wear them.  If you are wanting to running around in your favorite jeans and t-shirt, just do it.

And now we must delete these words from our vocabulary for the day: Time. Lazy. I must. Diet. Work. Job. Phone. Commitments.

Tell me about what you do when you take the day off? What makes you happy, peaceful, rested, re-energized, elated, and feeling like you have been renewed?

What keeps you grounded?

In soccer you must have both feet on ground when you throw the ball back into play. i know there is a name for this but I don’t know it. 

What is it that keeps you grounded?
My role as a mother grounds me. Life stops when one of children need me or are sick in bed. If they are unhappy, I try to connect with them and find out how I can help. 

What grounds you? 

My Impossible Standards

To say that an author’s written words have resonated with me is an understatement when it comes to Jen Hatmaker’s book FOR THE LOVE. This book and her other books have touched my life in so many ways. She speaks my language folks.

Allthingsgoodandwise, corinesandifer, boyvillemom

Just the title alone can penetrate deep into your soul. Fighting for Grace in a world of Impossible standards. Whoa! “Impossible Standards”, no kidding. Our world is so busy trying to make everything perfect that we forget that NO ONE IS PERFECT!

I mean, if we try to portray perfection, no one will relate to us. Sure they may look up to us and pay us a complement for our clean houses and well-behaved children but one day the curtain will get pulled back and everyone will see that the wizard (from the Wizard of OZ) is just a dumpy old man who forgets things. They will see us arguing with our misbehaved children in the car on the way to church. They will see that we fall apart when someone hurts our feelings and the dust bunnies that hop around from room to room.

One of my favorite subjects that Jen Hatmaker covers in For the Love is about parenting. She, like the rest of us are seeing grown kids questioning THE CHURCH. Where are we? Where is God. Her words will help us navigate these and other questions we may encounter as a parent.

For the Love, boyvillemom, allthingsgoodandwise, corine sandifer

I also love how she parents her children. The quote above has been my mantra for the last few years. I don’t want kids who are not prepared to ride the waves of life. Yes, I want them to be wise and not experienced, but I want them to know that getting up after a huge fall (even a moral fall) is possible and that there is victory on the other side. I will share more about Rising up after you Fall in a later post.

Please, please run out and grab a copy of this book. I will be posting a new fb group/book club link soon for you to join so we can read this book together.

Hello Eternal Beings: One Size Does Not Fit All

One day I overheard a lady say that “strong women of faith, who make a difference in the world, spend huge chunks of time praying, reading scripture and serving people”. I know she didn’t mean to dog anyone with her “advice” but I fell hard into a pit of despair after hearing her comment, because I can’t measure up to this standard! I don’t have long periods of time to pray or read right now.

allthingsgoodandwise, spiritual growth, no time, moms,

I guess I fell hard because I truly want to do my best and I felt she was communicating that my best was not measuring up to the standards. Because I don’t spend large amounts of time in one sitting with my bible and praying. I realize she wasn’t saying that, but that is what I was hearing. My deep desire is to walk with God and love others as Christ. But I started to feel un-accomplished and a failure in this area. Maybe there are others who can find large amounts of time to do these things and get closer to God but I am not one of those people. I know, we all have 24 hours in a day. However, some people are better at managing their time, they are more efficient & organized. I imagine that the time “THEY” spend is powerful and that they get lots of great nuggets of truth, while I sit and ask God to bless my family and keep me from being ugly to my husband and kids. Usually there aren’t any supersize nuggets from my prayers.


Some of us have major issues happening in our lives. Small kids, ailing parents, startup companies, husbands who are not as self-sufficient as other husbands, jobs, friends who need us and the list can go on and on. Insert yours here.

But then I realized that ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL. I am not her and she is not me. We are not robots and we cannot all worship and meditate on scripture all the same way. There isn’t a concrete formula to spirituality with Christ. There is only YOU and GOD.  Your time with Him is HOLY. Your time, however short or long, is SACRED. Don’t discount what happens when you communicate with your MAKER. He is there and you are present, plus HE is ETERNAL, and we are eternal beings, so “TIME” as we view it here on earth is obsolete to Him. Praise God.

allthingsgoodandwise, praying, women, christian women, bible

Here are my TIPS for those of us who are on the ALL I CAN DO, IS ALL I CAN DO PLAN

(no pressure)

  • Pray always: in the car, at the kitchen sink, unloading the washer, cleaning the garage, making sandwiches, filling out school papers.
  • Speak fervent prayers as you fill out those back-to-school papers;”Lord, may Thomas have a great year in school and empower his teachers, Amen.”
  • When you come across someone in need, pray right away with them present. You may forget or not have the time later.
  • Listen to Podcasts and/or set your bible app to audio.
  • Take those thoughts captive.
  • Carry a devotion book in your car and read for 1-15 min at a time
  • Close your eyes, breathe and mediate on GOD the father, God the Holy Spirit and God the Son
  • No doubt that we can all benefit from longer times in prayer and devotion but let’s not beat ourselves up with someone else’s standards. Let go and cherish the time you get with the creator of the world.


He is worthy. It is all for HIS GLORY. 

You are enough, even without all of those giant spiritual revelations.







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