Putting Christ back into Christmas: How one mom turned her mediocre Christmas back to a Christ-centered Christmas

Today I have a guest writer. She is a wife, mother, survivor, servant of The Lord, friend, and a overcomer. I know you will enjoy reading about how she took her pain and made something beautiful.

Mediocre Christmas

Growing up in South Jersey with a single mom and two other sisters, all we had to live on was welfare money. All my days growing up I never knew of a job that my mom had. My mom struggled with drug and alcohol issues. And so our Christmases were very simple. It wasn’t a big event and many of our Christmases just went by, then there were times when it was drowned in booze or other stuff. We learned how to deal with whatever the season brought us. All that mattered was that I had my sisters with me.

Advent idea, Holy Experience


But my life and Christmas changed when a short visit turned into a forever visit to my aunt and uncle’s house. Being that my mom and sisters became homeless while I was visiting, they thought it best that I stay to live with my aunt and uncle. The separation was more than I could have imagined. It was then that I learned how to cope by pretending. Pretending not to feel or care became my normal state. This went on for years and years: In fact all my Christmases were “pretend” I tried for so long not to remember, not to feel sadness. I just continued to do tradition the way I had always known, but it hurt.
 Years Later
Years later I became a believer in Christ.  Being new to the faith, I had no expectations about any of the holidays. But what I saw was that Christians didn’t really celebrate Christmas that differently from how everyone else celebrate. A few of the things I did observe was that much thought went into giving gifts to so many people: teachers, friends, mailman, just everyone and anyone. What I didn’t see was what was important. I did not see other families surround their Christmas around Christ. They may sing the right songs or tack on the Bible story of Christ on Christmas morning but that was pretty much it. And it seemed that the only time you see or hear of God was at Christmas time throw in with all the hub bub of the season. Much, of what people did was a strong focus on the tree and the ornaments. Ornament memories, memories of family members who have passed on, a child’s first ornament etc…. As years pass by all of this was too much for me. I wanted more God centered Christmas and less of people and stuff. It was completely unfulfilling and so void of anything that really matters to my faith.
So my heart cried out for something different but I didn’t know how to do Christmas any differently  because our culture tells us this is what how we do it.

6 thoughts on “Putting Christ back into Christmas: How one mom turned her mediocre Christmas back to a Christ-centered Christmas

  1. Deborah Foskey says:

    I bought my grandson tools for Christmas can’t wait to build a manger with him. Thank you for the blessing of inspiration!

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