New Year’s Goals for Families
As I was looking for a specific book today I ran across some old notebooks filled with lists. These lists were goals and house rules for our family we had written over 6 years ago. Staring at the worn out pages I wondered if they were a waste of time and paper. Some of the goals were lifetime goals and some were age appropriate for the ages of my children at the time. Here is what I found, I called it our Family Creed.
House Rules & Goals: Family Creed
- We obey and give glory to God
- We Love, Honor, & Pray for one another.
- We tell the truth.
- We speak quietly & respectfully to one another
- We don’t hurt one another with unkind words or deeds.
- When we have work to do we do it without complaining.
- We take good care of our things.
- When we make a mess we clean it up.
- When we don’t know what to do, we ask for help.
- When we go out we obey these rules as if we were in this house.
I often wonder if these lists were just a waste of paper or had they served their purpose? When we make lists and goals we are reminded of how far we have come and how far we need to go. Believe it or not, posting our goals and rules actually helped us teach our kids to take good care of their things, ask for help, tell the truth, and keep God in their hearts and minds.
A few years ago I asked my sister in law, Peg, to share her family’s goals. I found her list in my pile of papers and began to cry, because just this morning I saw pictures on Facebook of her kids helping her tear down their old greenhouse. They are all adults now and in my opinion are still keeping true to their family goals and beliefs.
Peg’s Family goals written 10 years ago
Keep God in your hearts.
Be Kind to one another.
Ask questions. Be informed.
Look for ways to help those in need.
Look for the good in all.
Be responsible in your actions.
Be aware of others.
Take care of the environment.
Do your best (which is not the same thing as being perfect).
And so I truly urge you to write down your goals and beliefs for your family. My worn out pages served their purpose. They don’t have to be perfect. They don’t have to include everything. Just jot down some things you deem as important to you and your family, you can always add to the list. Put them up on the refrigerator, write them on the bathroom mirror, write one on a post-it note and talk about it on the way to school, say them to your children, and keep them handy. I heard a quote this past weekend that convinced me of the importance of goals and beliefs: “your thoughts become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.” Don’t miss an opportunity to steer your life and the lives of your children.
I’d love to hear some of your goals for this year.